If he can’t plan a date with you then how is he going to plan a life with you, sis?
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If he can’t plan a date with you then how is he going to plan a life with you, sis?
What are your thoughts
But we haven't been raising leaders as a collective, as a black community for a few decades now.
Depending on what stats you adhere to 70 percent or so of us have no father in the home. That as of itself is not too bad if: a. a thorough black father that was active in the son's life. b. He has older, thorough relatives active in his life. c. a black coach who was active in his life at a young age d. pastor, deacon, etc.
The young men these days have no idea what real leadership looks like. Not all, but way too many. Many of their moms raised to be son/husbands.
And lets not blame the media, the music, the movies, etc. I grew up hearing the most ratchet rap, hearing songs glorifying pimping, women were B's and H's. Loved it, had it blaring in my room or car. But on a date I arrived at least 5 minutes early, opened the car door, picked up the check.
Real talk? Planning a proper date should be basic as shyt. But it's gotten so bad out there in them streets and dating life it's the equivalent of 'I take care of my kids'
Depending on what stats you adhere to 70 percent or so of us have no father in the home. That as of itself is not too bad if: a. a thorough black father that was active in the son's life. b. He has older, thorough relatives active in his life. c. a black coach who was active in his life at a young age d. pastor, deacon, etc.
The young men these days have no idea what real leadership looks like. Not all, but way too many. Many of their moms raised to be son/husbands.
And lets not blame the media, the music, the movies, etc. I grew up hearing the most ratchet rap, hearing songs glorifying pimping, women were B's and H's. Loved it, had it blaring in my room or car. But on a date I arrived at least 5 minutes early, opened the car door, picked up the check.
Real talk? Planning a proper date should be basic as shyt. But it's gotten so bad out there in them streets and dating life it's the equivalent of 'I take care of my kids'
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You can't trust a man to lead if he does not do what he said he will do.
But what if never says he is going to do anything? That’s the point Sis is making.
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Leadership ability is just something you either have or don't have.
As far as a family I don't view it as the man solely leads and his input is the end all be all.
I look at my wife as a partner who can give me a different point of view. I even have out daughters give input on things. We all make decisions for the household together.
While I am the breadwinner for the house my wife does help with making financial decisions. I didn't just pick which house and that is it. We all went together and looked at several houses. Everyone had their input and we decided together on what was best for us all.
When we get vehicles, we alternate on picking. We get a price range, a type(SUV, truck, sedan etc), and then whoever turn it is picks what they like. The other partner has input but whoever turn it is has the final say.
My wife has even had input on my career choice. It was her that suggested I change from law enforcement to nursing. It is something I'm glad she suggested. It was her that suggested me to apply for jobs in other areas of our state, a suggestion that really put my advancement into high gear. She networked for me and got me part time which increased our household substantially.
I lead but it isn't a solo endeavor. I look to my wife to give me advice and her opinion.
This is why women that feel like their looks and just because they have a p*ssy is enough are out of touch and incorrect. There are 7 billion people on this planet and more than half of them are women. A substantial portion of those are attractive so having a p*ssy and good looks isn't special. It's not even rare.
A woman that can advise you in the right direction and give her input that helps you move forward is something to be admired. A woman that has skills and can bring those to the household is even more valuable.
That's how I view it!
As far as a family I don't view it as the man solely leads and his input is the end all be all.
I look at my wife as a partner who can give me a different point of view. I even have out daughters give input on things. We all make decisions for the household together.
While I am the breadwinner for the house my wife does help with making financial decisions. I didn't just pick which house and that is it. We all went together and looked at several houses. Everyone had their input and we decided together on what was best for us all.
When we get vehicles, we alternate on picking. We get a price range, a type(SUV, truck, sedan etc), and then whoever turn it is picks what they like. The other partner has input but whoever turn it is has the final say.
My wife has even had input on my career choice. It was her that suggested I change from law enforcement to nursing. It is something I'm glad she suggested. It was her that suggested me to apply for jobs in other areas of our state, a suggestion that really put my advancement into high gear. She networked for me and got me part time which increased our household substantially.
I lead but it isn't a solo endeavor. I look to my wife to give me advice and her opinion.
This is why women that feel like their looks and just because they have a p*ssy is enough are out of touch and incorrect. There are 7 billion people on this planet and more than half of them are women. A substantial portion of those are attractive so having a p*ssy and good looks isn't special. It's not even rare.
A woman that can advise you in the right direction and give her input that helps you move forward is something to be admired. A woman that has skills and can bring those to the household is even more valuable.
That's how I view it!