The Cookout

[GACishere]

My friends and I were discussing this subject when they show me the Body Count Calculator.
It tells you where your sexual history stand in with your gender and age.
My friend then said will never date a woman with a higher body count than me
And my other friend was clowning him saying that is a sign of male insecurity.
I am indifferent, But that is just my personality
So how do guys feel about this ?

Tell Us How Many People You’ve Slept With. We’ll Tell You if That’s a Lot.

 

[Samuelrejoyce]

For me, I feel everyone should do what is best for them body count or no body count. If someone slim is good for you, go for them.

 

[FeverPitch]

Let's put it this way. A normal body count isn't important.
However, there is a point where body counts become excessive.
Teanna Trump famously said that her body count was 80 before she left high school.
This is before she became a sex worker.
That's excessive and indicates a deeper issue.
There are people who have slept with hundreds or even thousands of people.
We can be non-judgmental but still be realistic.

 

[Troy]

Let's put it this way. A normal body count isn't important.
However, there is a point where body counts become excessive.
Teanna Trump famously said that her body count was 80 before she left high school.
This is before she became a sex worker.
That's excessive and indicates a deeper issue.
There are people who have slept with hundreds or even thousands of people.
We can be non-judgmental but still be realistic.

If she got 200 bodies she is going to lie anyways. If she is refined and composed you will never be able to tell how many bodies she got. Best thing to do is see how long she makes you wait and then see what she is doing while she has you waiting. Is she just setting some artificial timeline that she heard from Steve Harvey or is she really getting to know you and see how you rock? That’s how you can tell if she really values her goodies.

 

[FeverPitch]

If she got 200 bodies she is going to lie anyways. If she is refined and composed you will never be able to tell how many bodies she got. Best thing to do is see how long she makes you wait and then see what she is doing while she has you waiting. Is she just setting some artificial timeline that she heard from Steve Harvey or is she really getting to know you and see how you rock? That’s how you can tell if she really values her goodies.

You right. Most people will lie.
But you got some people who will hit you with that number and see what you do.
Either way, I agree that you have to use your power of discernment.

 

[Jay]

You right. Most people will lie.
But you got some people who will hit you with that number and see what you do.
Either way, I agree that you have to use your power of discernment.

I’ll never tell my number taking that ish to the grave.

 

[Sapphire]

I know this is old school but my mom told me growing up that I need to be able to count my sexual partners on one or two hands and if I go beyond that, I cheapen my value later in life as a partner, a mother, and a wife. My father said something along the same lines. They were pretty much telling me to value myself and not be a hoe lol

I think trust, loyalty, and respect are more important than a body count number but you really need to work harder with people who have had more partners. The more someone sleeps around, the harder time they have of staying committed. This is true for men and women. One of my friends, she has had a lot of sexual partners, and even when she is really feeling someone, in the back of her head she is always wondering if something out there is better. The longest relationship she was able to keep before leaving or being unfaithful was 6 months.

 

[Heatice]

I’ll never tell my number taking that ish to the grave.

You took the words right out of my mouth mate. Why in world would I ever be willing to make that information a public knowledge? I don't wanna know about my partners own before we started dating because it's not going to add anything good to our relationship.

 

[Jay]

You took the words right out of my mouth mate. Why in world would I ever be willing to make that information a public knowledge? I don't wanna know about my partners own before we started dating because it's not going to add anything good to our relationship.

Exactly. I ask basic questions like "What was your past boyfriends like" but I ain't tryna see the carfax.

 

[GACishere]

You took the words right out of my mouth mate. Why in world would I ever be willing to make that information a public knowledge? I don't wanna know about my partners own before we started dating because it's not going to add anything good to our relationship.

A Lot of people are insecure when it comes to sex in general. It is generally said that men tend inflate their sex numbers and women tend to deflate their sex numbers. I agree that it really shouldn't matter but when people's egos get involved , all hell break loose

 

[GACishere]

Exactly. I ask basic questions like "What was your past boyfriends like" but I ain't tryna see the carfax.

i usually wait until the women starts talk about sex before i do

 

[educatedman23]

A person might see some stuff they don't wanna see with the body counts.

 

[Troy]

A person might see some stuff they don't wanna see with the body counts.

These women when they young be racking up numbers. Be at 20 niggas by 22 and you thinking you the mack of the year with your measly 15 by 32. I ain't even tryna hear the numbers. What I don't know won't kill me unless it's aids then yea I'm screwed.

 

[educatedman23]

These women when they young be racking up numbers. Be at 20 niggas by 22 and you thinking you the mack of the year with your measly 15 by 32. I ain't even tryna hear the numbers. What I don't know won't kill me unless it's aids then yea I'm screwed.

Yep. A man would be screwed in that situation. It is easier for the typical woman to get sex than the typical man.

 

[GACishere]

Yep. A man would be screwed in that situation. It is easier for the typical woman to get sex than the typical man.

It also tells you the person you're really dealing with. Body counts usually comes with stories

 

[educatedman23]

It also tells you the person you're really dealing with. Body counts usually comes with stories

Definitely

 

[Danny]

i usually wait until the women starts talk about sex before i do

From my experience or encounter with them, most of them hardly start that discussion on that subject first. The would always push you to do it first and if you're not lucky, you get the judgemental type and the shit is going to get nasty.

 

[Christybabe]

Why on earth will I take a body count? I have had several relationships before marriage and sex was involved,though sparingly. When dating,my husband asked and I told him only 2 . there is no way I'm gonna tell him they were more because it will haunt him forever,yeah he is that petty😒

 

[Maxwell]

My past sex life is my business alone and you have no right or say in it as my current partner. It's not even a discussion that I'm going to get into with you and if I notice that it's something that you can't let go, then it's a sign that you've got security issue that's a red flag for me in the relationship.

 

[educatedman23]

Folks are very surprised when I tell them mine is 0. Of course, they don't know how to react.

 

[TeeGee]

Sex was meant to be something precious and shared among lovers as a sign of commitment and their love for each other but now sex is just an activity, a meaningless exercise that you just have to engage in so people wouldn't see you are misinformed or backwards or whatever.

Body counts now is just a number to some people and the number of people they've had sex with doesn't mean a thing to them, people just have sex with any body and call it been confident and going for what they want.

I wouldn't discuss body count because it would only rise some doubt about my partner in my head, if she is faithful while with me I am satisfied with that.

 

[StayingHumble]

I'm no super player but according to the calculator I am doing better than 85% of my peers at my age .

 

[The H.N.I.C.]

Some people are unlucky. One person could be enough to contract a lifelong illness or an untreated malady. I’m suspicious of anyone taking a large number of pills or any pills that end in the suffix “vir.” Physical and aromatic inspections are a must (pun intended). Bumps, lesions, critters, oozing, and/or cheese are a “no go.” If I weren’t celibate now, I would keep a jeweler’s loupe in my purse. You never know…

 

[educatedman23]

Sex was meant to be something precious and shared among lovers as a sign of commitment and their love for each other but now sex is just an activity, a meaningless exercise that you just have to engage in so people wouldn't see you are misinformed or backwards or whatever.

Body counts now is just a number to some people and the number of people they've had sex with doesn't mean a thing to them, people just have sex with any body and call it been confident and going for what they want.

I wouldn't discuss body count because it would only rise some doubt about my partner in my head, if she is faithful while with me I am satisfied with that.

These male dating coaches think the more women they get the better. I dont want some huge number of women. I'm scared of catching a disease. And I know women are scared of catching something too.

 

[Mastamind]

I’ll never tell my number taking that ish to the grave.

As you shouldn't

 

[Tati 304]

I'm no super player but according to the calculator I am doing better than 85% of my peers at my age .

So you’re a male H O E.

 

[educatedman23]

As you shouldn't

Of course. The less people know, the better.

 

[StayingHumble]

So you’re a male H O E.

Is it possible to reform lol

 

[Heatice]

A Lot of people are insecure when it comes to sex in general. It is generally said that men tend inflate their sex numbers and women tend to deflate their sex numbers. I agree that it really shouldn't matter but when people's egos get involved , all hell break loose

Yeah, you have got a point about what ego is capable of doing in not just in relationship but also in one's life generally. It's a like a cancer that rots everything. If you don't cut it out early enough, it's going to spared all over and kill the host. If it's in relationship, it's killing it completely.

 

[Deleted member 1348]

These days as a man you really don't know. If she is cool as hell, y'all click, she seems wifey in attitude, looks, you suspect high body count maybe but don't know. You not gonna wifey if all the boxes are ticked. Maybe....maybe stuff she has no issue doing or initiating in bed gives some clues.

My only worries of a suspected high body count is 1. she got turned out in the past sexually so much she gets bored or tough for her to enjoy sex and/or 2. she eventually cheats.

No matter how experienced or good you may think you are, she could have gotten so ran through, a male porn star couldn't do much. On the other hand, she may do stuff that curl your toes.

Some women learned something from a high body count and realized they effed up with too much random ish, want a "good" man, they purge some of that ratchet social media, move to another town and start over. Some don't. At the end of the day, given time, no one, man or woman can hide their true self. It may take 6 months, 1 year, but you gotta be hella observant. There are reformed 304s who become great girlfriends or wives. And of course there are some who got permanently damaged. You can tell the latter because the trip early on. The reformed ones? There are clues but usually if you are her last chance at a good one, the smart ones do all they can to keep you.

In reverse, if you a guy who is a big 'ol freak and she's a good girl but ain't tryna do 'all that' in bed....haha..is that a deal breaker? Or would a good girl try to keep you by trying stuff you like (within reason)? I've broken up with girls because I thought they were not gonna do this or that and exes did.