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As a married woman, I would say ideally yes. I had 7 children (6 by one asshole and 1 by another asshole) before I got married (my husband had no children but had been married once before and it was a disaster due to many things one being that she was already pregnant be another man when my husband married her which he accepted but then she had four more children DURING the marriage all of the children were by other men and still my husband tried to work it out with her for YEARS they were married for almost 20 years and finally she filled for devoice a couple of years before she passed and my husband and I met shortly after his first wife passed away) and we have two sons together (5 and 1). I guess the third one is the charm. That said, I understand that children aren't for everyone. Some people don't want and/or don't need children (y'all know the ones I'm talking about) in which case it's probably best that they not have them. But more importantly, I believe that the subject of children should be properly discussed, decided and agreed upon by BOTH parties BEFORE getting married or they're just asking for trouble and they marriage will not be a happy one for at least of the parties. After all, many marriages have ended because one of the parties either wanted or didn't want children while the opposite was true for the other parties. All of these is even more relevant for Blk marriages since we have so much more to deal with being an oppressed group of people living under white supremacy.