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I'm in a relationship where we are growing together.
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That’s beautiful and that’s what a relationship should be. I’m not for or against marriage but I prioritize the relationship. Titles can change
 
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Totally understood bro, but two can blast more than one, depending on the tools & skill.
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That's the tough part sis. Finding someone who is both on code AND ticks off regular boxes (attractive, personality, etc.). Not saying its impossible, but its d@mn hard task these days, for black men....and for black women.
 
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Depends on your mindset and priorities, of you value traditional monogamy and commitment, yeah it can be worth it.
 
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Michelle is smart enough not to give up the bag.

Can't have a strong community without strong family units.
 
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That's the tough part sis. Finding someone who is both on code AND ticks off regular boxes (attractive, personality, etc.). Not saying its impossible, but its d@mn hard task these days, for black men....and for black women.
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Have you ever tried an ALL BLACK dating site? Professionals, not rachettes.
 
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Have you ever tried an ALL BLACK dating site? Professionals, not rachettes.
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I have but most of them like BLK were created by white people and don't even filter off race women/men that join the site. I am sticking to finding someone in person and around me.

Most of those "professionals" are c00ns and too enamored by Western culture and don't want a brother that even talks about the issues that we talk about here because it conflicts with their social life.
 
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    TekhNiqo said:
    I have but most of them like BLK were created by white people and don't even filter off race women/men that join the site. I am sticking to finding someone in person and around me.

    Most of those "professionals" are c00ns and too enamored by Western culture and don't want a brother that even talks about the issues that we talk about here because it conflicts with their social life.
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    BLK is great for one night stands and side chicks but not much more.
     
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    Jay said:
    BLK is great for one night stands and side chicks but not much more.
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    Mannnn...you ain't never lie. What lost me tho was the little notifcations talking about "We like catfish but only when it's fried..." I'm like :Ya'll are WHITE. I hate when white people think they know us or something and I was tired of flipping through scores of white women with names like "Mocha" and "Chocolate". I did meet a few people but they weren't looking for long term despite what the profile said but they were fine tho...

    I also learned on that app that Black women named "Jade" were most likey African...I don't have a problem with that but I didn't realize that before.
     
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    Mannnn...you ain't never lie. What lost me tho was the little notifcations talking about "We like catfish but only when it's fried..." I'm like :Ya'll are WHITE. I hate when white people think they know us or something and I was tired of flipping through scores of white women with names like "Mocha" and "Chocolate". I did meet a few people but they weren't looking for long term despite what the profile said but they were fine tho...

    I also learned on that app that Black women named "Jade" were most likey African...I don't have a problem with that but I didn't realize that before.
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    Man so true. The non-Black women I ran into on that app fetishized Black men. You were just a bucket list item to them and nothing more. At least that was my experience.

    Also the amount of overweight women on there was disappointing. They would post pictures from 5-6 years ago and then you link up they were 50 pounds heavier.

    Lastly, some of them were so deluded with their asks. Look busted, ratchet, and low down but looking for a dude that looks like Morris Chestnut, thuggish like 2PAC, with jokes like Katt Williams with checks like Elon Musk.

    “Don’t just take me to a Chili’s I’m top tier”

    Girl, that may be true on the block you grew up with all the dusty niggas trying to smash but you lucky if I take you to 7-11 for a hot dog.
     
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    Man so true. The non-Black women I ran into on that app fetishized Black men. You were just a bucket list item to them and nothing more. At least that was my experience.

    Also the amount of overweight women on there was disappointing. They would post pictures from 5-6 years ago and then you link up they were 50 pounds heavier.

    Lastly, some of them were so deluded with their asks. Look busted, ratchet, and low down but looking for a dude that looks like Morris Chestnut, thuggish like 2PAC, with jokes like Katt Williams with checks like Elon Musk.

    “Don’t just take me to a Chili’s I’m top tier”

    Girl, that may be true on the block you grew up with all the dusty niggas trying to smash but you lucky if I take you to 7-11 for a hot dog.
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    Yo they want all three "Fs" G lmao!

    That happened to me once but she was cool. I don't mind them a lil thicc but as I get older Black women look better and better to me but it was the convo half the time. Like I shouldn't have to use big words and talk about certain things to "prove" I'm intelligent. I just like to do me but either I was too "smart" or too "hood" and I'm like "why can't I just be myself". One woman blocked me for using "bad grammar" but little did she know she was doing me a favor.

    Also, shout out to the dusty dudes out there that make me look good, but also shame on them or whoever who was giving women the impression that I'm going simp, pay for everything and chase after booty. I know my value and I have had beautiful women so the physical ain't enough and I'm not selfish but there's either an expectation to make a certain amount of money, drive a certain car etc, OR to spoil them. That's not a problem I have had when dealing with women irl.
     
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    Tariq Nasheed, Dr. Boyce Watkins, Dr. Claud Anderson are married. Denzel Washington, Ice Cube, are married to the same woman for years. They are all very pro Black. Seems the pro black men choose only good women. No ratchets, IG models, etc.

    A lot of people don't know this but Shahazad Ali was married with 12 kids (9 adopted). One man, till he died. I think she remarried after that, but point being pro Black women date and get married to good men. Not f*ck boys, dusties. This may be a surprise, but I'll add Beyonce to this list. Behind the glamour and fame, she's been a one woman man. She dated her HS sweetheart for a long time till he cheated. She was rumored to have a few celeb boyfriends before Jay Z but nothing concrete. She basically went from HS sweetheart who she kept when famous to Jay Z. She started dating him at 25, married by 27. She found a producer early. The way TBA recommended for sisters.

    My overall point? As B1 grows, this whole thing grows, the f*ck boys, dusties, ratchets, IG women, will be deemed not desirable by B1 folks. Marriages will become relevant again as this grows.
     
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    Professor: 'Couples who have joint accounts stay together longer'

    The study found that 62% of couples who had a joint account also spent money in the same way.
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    Professor: 'Couples who have joint accounts stay together longer'

    The study found that 62% of couples who had a joint account also spent money in the same way.
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    We've several accounts. Bills, savings, goals, emergencies (family & ours), projects, unexpected expenses & businesses. Doesn't matter how much we put in these accounts, as long as we put something. Over time, it's pleasingly surprising what we've accomplished.
     
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    Marriage will have to be worth it in the black community, anywhere. The traditional family unit has always been the cornerstone of every successful society. It was the cornerstone of all the black wall streets.

    Choose wisely.
     
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    Here's the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples

    Psychologists and relationship experts John and Julie Gottman have studied more than 40,000 couples to identify the secrets to long-lasting marriages. Here is their No. 1 hack for building happy and successful relationships.
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