There's a couple of factors:
1) Since I don't do bars or clubs (Since i'm not a fan of crowds..) I usually do dating sites or apps even that is a bit taxing...lmao
2) My rule is that I don't date anyone I don't feel mentally, sexually, emotionally or all the above. Just because a person is attractive doesn't mean their personalities are and I usually ask questions to vet and if something comes up in those answers that gives a red flag; while I give them a benefit of the doubt if their actions don't match what they say then I walk plain and simple!
3) Having funds has nothing to do with what I like and don't like; My funds is fine but like i said, I don't do dinners on first dates I rather talk and get to know someone first but what I'm not going to do is let someone dictate by expecting me to shell out all the time on stuff and they don't bring anything to the table as well (If it comes off wrong of me to say that then it is what it is...).
4) I can be very blunt in my words and I don't sugarcoat anything (at this point I can't afford to BS people) so maybe it could be my "mouthpiece" but that's not changing no time soon! If someone is on Lizzo level and expect me to just accept that...I can't do that. I work out, I try to live my life right and I would expect the person i'm seeing to do the same about themselves as well like i said previously, as a black men we are often stigmatized as the "Garbage man" of the dating world and I'm tired of that saying like we have to date ANYONE and not have standards for ourselves. I love woman, but I'm not going to date EVERY woman (from skinny to obese, etc.....but the saying goes, "Beauty is in the eye" I suppose) I guess you can say i have a type!
5) Finally, Yep its definitely the area I live in as well. The majority of woman falls under certain categories , around my way you have some who thinks the sun rises and falls on their p**$y and that annoys me when i see a bunch of dudes all swarming around one woman like simps and don't realize there are far better woman out there. The other half falls under the, "N**gas aint shit" crowd, and yet they contradict themselves by showing out and objectifying themselves and complain when someone wants to get into their pants. Last but not least the woman with children, I don't date woman with kids. I just don't.
