I know this is a traditional mindset and one that I have held since my teens. I never wanted to have children before marriage and I did a good job of making sure it didn't happen. That being said, what are your thoughts don't he subject? I know marriage is not a foolproof standard that will ensure nothing ever happens to your relationship but I feel like people are more inclined to work out their differences if kids come after.
But just because you’re married doesn’t mean someone is committed to you. How do people have kids in countries that don’t have marriages? Are they unable to figure out how to commit to one another because they didn’t stand in front of an old man holding a Bible asking you if you want to be with your partner forever? Marriage is a ceremony and financial arrangement.
Marriage indeed is a financial arrangement, a merger of 2 parties (man and woman) that results in a stronger conglomerate.
Remove the ceremony part of it and look at marriage purely in these terms. The husband and wife creates the foundation FIRST, then the children follow. (Foundation = emotional, mental, and monetary)
This is the ideal arrangement for passing down and cultivating WEALTH. Please note: this is the RULE and not the exception.
Are there unmarried couples who "do a good job" raising their kids? YES
Are there married couples who "do a horrible job" raising their kids? YES
Heck, someone could say "just because 2 people are married doesn't mean that they're financially sound."
BUT, we should never evaluate what's best for our people based on SUB-standard conditions and anomalies. We should always evaluate based on the IDEAL standard.
This is the way forward.