The Cookout

[porter66]

My ex-wife told me she still loves me 13yrs after or divorce. Of I don't feel the same way. We married for over 20yrs but I spent so much much of my time away from home due to working overseas. I even had a lady-friend for 10 years a traveling companion who I loved more than my wife. I broke that off when I left that job, but my ex-wife found out and cheated on me.
For me that was unforgivable, our kid finished HS and I left, I realize my foul ways because I know I was not only cheating with my girlfriend but with others as well, but I wanted to stay with my family until all my kids got through HS & I did. Now she comes telling me we should try again, but it's to late for me I'm remarried to a woman I love endlessly.
I took a good woman, and made a mess not proud but I want ppl to learn, I'm lucky I found someone who I explained my past and didn't hold it against me, I wish her the same.

 

[Jay]

Thanks for sharing. This is one of those situations I never quite understood. What goes through a guy’s head when he is cheating and then gets mad when his woman cheats on him? I remember being at a club with a few homies and one of the cats there was cheating on his wife. I said “how would you feel if she was out with some other dude” and he said “hell nah unacceptable”. I looked at that nigga like:

“But you here with a whole other female”.

 

[Sovereign]

My ex-wife told me she still loves me 13yrs after or divorce. Of I don't feel the same way. We married for over 20yrs but I spent so much much of my time away from home due to working overseas. I even had a lady-friend for 10 years a traveling companion who I loved more than my wife. I broke that off when I left that job, but my ex-wife found out and cheated on me.
For me that was unforgivable, our kid finished HS and I left, I realize my foul ways because I know I was not only cheating with my girlfriend but with others as well, but I wanted to stay with my family until all my kids got through HS & I did. Now she comes telling me we should try again, but it's to late for me I'm remarried to a woman I love endlessly.
I took a good woman, and made a mess not proud but I want ppl to learn, I'm lucky I found someone who I explained my past and didn't hold it against me, I wish her the same.

If you were not in another relationship would you go back? Be honest. Would you at the very least have sex with her?

 

[sourgrapes]

I am curious about that as well. Like it was okay for you to cheat but not your wife? Am I misunderstanding? I don't care what you have in your pants, cheating is cheating.

I get it though, you moved on and her approaching you thinking there is something that can be rekindled is a false perception. Maybe she is lonely and just wants something familiar to her. Who knows.