You sound like everything that is wrong with men nowadays.I used to be but you have to play the game or it will definitely play you. I would say the toughest part about it overall was:
I don’t agree with you on all the apps being the same…I find if there is a barrier to entry like a subscription, it weeds out the super low quality bums.
- Expensive. Having a roster of women gets ridiculously expensive quickly. If dinner in a major metro area is around $90…multiply that by the number of woman on the team.
- Boring. Having the same intro conversations over and over sucks. I would take breaks even though I had a lot of women matching me simply because I couldn’t take the small talk in the beginning
- Flaky. Dating is hard work and if you are not talking to multiple women then you can possibly have issues with low interest women cancelling your plans and leaving you without a fallback.
I find there is a clear difference between what you find on apps like BLK and POF vs. something like Hinge.
You sound like everything that is wrong with men nowadays.
I have been married for 27 years and I'm so glad that I do not have to be in the dating game. I couldn't image having to be out there now. God forbid something happens - but if so - I'm flying solo!
Man, I’m glad I’m married to. It’s only been 7 years for me, but it looks I got out just in time. The dating scene looks terrible out there. It don’t even seem like fun.I have been married for 27 years and I'm so glad that I do not have to be in the dating game. I couldn't image having to be out there now. God forbid something happens - but if so - I'm flying solo!
Man, I’m glad I’m married to. It’s only been 7 years for me, but it looks I got out just in time. The dating scene looks terrible out there. It don’t even seem like fun.
You ain’t lying. women my age are looking trash show off their pop belly. I’m bout to go upstairs and kiss my wife for saving me from this bullcrap.7 years is a long time bruh and yeah you lucky cuz these hoes out here ain’t bout a damn thing. Too many tryna be the next Meg da stallion but look like Lizzo and got bankroll like Dr. Dre’s daughter that’s been in the news. Broke, gassed up, and full of delusion…
They out here looking like Larry Holmes, flabby and sick. To the lady’s credit though, dudes ain’t much better either dustiness is in abundance.You ain’t lying. women my age are looking trash show off their pop belly. I’m bout to upstairs and kiss my wife for saving me from this bullcrap.
I actually see what @Jay is saying. He ain’t offbase at all. I guess from another point of view men as whole aint all that either.You sound like everything that is wrong with men nowadays.
I actually see what @Jay is saying. He ain’t offbase at all. I guess from another point of view men as whole aint all that either.
I guess we all have to weed through some stuff to find what we’re looking for.
But for real though. Can you elaborate?
Oh I get it.… Honestly, I’v never really been big in the dating game like that. I’m an introvert. I’ve never done those things you’re talking about.If you’re interested in a woman you should take the time to get to know her and not have her on some type of roster to show off to your homies. How can you genuinely get to know a woman if you are talking to multiple at one time? How can you be serious about a particular woman if you’re having dinner with her one night and dinner with another one the next? Guys are out here talking to 3 or 4 women and having them all think they are in something real and meaningful only to get dropped in the end when the guy picks the one he likes the most.
If you’re interested in a woman you should take the time to get to know her and not have her on some type of roster to show off to your homies. How can you genuinely get to know a woman if you are talking to multiple at one time? How can you be serious about a particular woman if you’re having dinner with her one night and dinner with another one the next? Guys are out here talking to 3 or 4 women and having them all think they are in something real and meaningful only to get dropped in the end when the guy picks the one he likes the most.
I've tried my share of dating sites, not a big fan of most of them to be honest. I prefer to meet women at the bar or nearby. But dating apps bug me, because no one seems to be looking for an actual relationship. And hey, it's great if you want to meet someone for a "casual" thing, but I'm more looking for a relationship ya know?
idk, I just encounter nothing but bots and fake users at the datings sites I did join. Facebook seems pretty promising for dating these days, but still, it's online dating so eh.
Oh I get it.… Honestly, I’v never really been big in the dating game like that. I’m an introvert. I’ve never done those things you’re talking about.
We all have a list of turn offs, but it did work out for me. There’s always somebody who’s gonna rise above the filth.
See this is disingenuous because women are the masters of having a roster which is a concept that we do not understand as younger men. When you text a woman ”let’s get dinner at x date and time” and she responds “I’ll let you know” it’s typically because she is leaving her options open in hopes that someone comes with a better plan. If a guy does, she will flake on you…if one doesn’t, she’ll accept the date. Often times this yes or no doesn’t come until the day of the date leaving men with cancelled plans at the last minute.
That’s why it makes sense as men for us to have a roster too so that we are not tethered to non-commital answers. When you get the “I’ll let you know text” you have two options:
This is the easiest way to live as a man in the dating world…when you only have one, you may be able to tell her that you are a man of value and options but it’s much harder to show it. Once she realizes that you aren’t going to sit around waiting for her she will know that she ain’t the one for you or that she needs to get some “act right”.
- Refuse non-committal answer and ask that she gives you a time and date she knows she can keep.
- Double book the day and time so that when the day comes that she hits you with the “I can’t go” it does not interfere with your day and if she hits you with the last minute “yes” you say “I’m sorry, I didn’t hear from you so I made other plans,”.
That’s true but there’s a vast amount of men who don’t think like you.
How can you assume that the women is giving you non-committal answers to keep her options open? Don’t you think that’s a bit of assumption? You’re using an assumption of the woman’s behavior to justify you being a player.
I like how you avoided the fact that y’all the queens of maintaining rosters. :D
Everything is mostly all about money and sex right now. Most of the men and ladies out there don't really have the time to invest in dating and relationship. It's why you see ladies going almost naked on so many social media platforms just to get attention, money and sex.Man, I’m glad I’m married to. It’s only been 7 years for me, but it looks I got out just in time. The dating scene looks terrible out there. It don’t even seem like fun.
This is a 2 way street. There are valid criticisms on both sides. Dating is ROUGH if you are genuine period. But we also have to look at ourselves. I got homies, long time homies who are kinda dusty complaining about 'ain't no women out there'. I mean..bruh...and there are sistas who are either physically not up to par and/or just got a bad attitude. The latter is subjective but the fact is a lot of women aren't feminine because they were raised without any father or father like figures.
I had to take a real hard look at myself as well. I was either choosing the wrong type of women or had to change some things about myself that women weren't feeling. Overall, though, if you are a producer, as a man, it helps a lot obviously. Improve on that with decent clothes, good personality, conversation.
Also, gotta really ask yourself are you dating to find wifey? Dating to find long term companionship hopefully but not necessarily a wife or just tryna smash 9s and 10s. lol.
Then self assess and act/do accordingly. Overall though both men and women have it tough. Until we figure out a space where good men and women and by good I mean what each other is looking for generally, its gonna be tough.
Relatives and friends are a good source. They know you.
This is a man who gets it.This is a 2 way street. There are valid criticisms on both sides. Dating is ROUGH if you are genuine period. But we also have to look at ourselves. I got homies, long time homies who are kinda dusty complaining about 'ain't no women out there'. I mean..bruh...and there are sistas who are either physically not up to par and/or just got a bad attitude. The latter is subjective but the fact is a lot of women aren't feminine because they were raised without any father or father like figures.
I had to take a real hard look at myself as well. I was either choosing the wrong type of women or had to change some things about myself that women weren't feeling. Overall, though, if you are a producer, as a man, it helps a lot obviously. Improve on that with decent clothes, good personality, conversation.
Also, gotta really ask yourself are you dating to find wifey? Dating to find long term companionship hopefully but not necessarily a wife or just tryna smash 9s and 10s. lol.
Then self assess and act/do accordingly. Overall though both men and women have it tough. Until we figure out a space where good men and women and by good I mean what each other is looking for generally, its gonna be tough.
Relatives and friends are a good source. They know you.
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