Like you can't have both. You can't both want have all this wild sex with baddies the women you clearly want and then also say women should be chaste pure and limited how much they have unless you're going to have aex by yourself or with men. Either it's fine and everyone can have the sex they want or no one can.
LOL...yes men can and it has been going on for centuries. Most cities have or had a red light district. Men bang them but don't wifey them.
On a more personal level, in every HS there are those girls that the b-ball team, football team or the players are smashing. These guys aren't asking them to the prom. The nerd who is a merit scholar isn't going to wifey her. I can understand women getting upset but men, as a collective, want low or no body count. Unless all the choices have a high body count then this 'everyone can or no one can' can have some teeth but it doesn't.
Guys with tangibles, high producers, making over 100k, generally aren't wifeying women with a high body count if they know it. Generally speaking. Pookie and Ray Ray don't have much of a choice. What often happens is women with high body counts who want a producer, and is at or near 30 and trying to get a husband and family before that clock runs out, purges the ratchet pix, etc, from their social media. Many move to a new city and re-invent themselves. I've seen that. I know a few women from HS who were getting ran through and for a while no one has heard much from them. Through the grapevine you hear they are now in a different city, with a boyfriend or husband and they have pretty much no FB friends from back in the day. I know one white girl from HS who was getting ran the f*ck through by the brothers. She is now married to her white Republican husband in Arizona. He has no idea of her background, I'm sure. She has made no connection to anyone black from back in the day. These types of white girls lie about it.
As far as sisters, similarly. They move to another part of town or city. Change up. Some baddies with a body count get lucky and catch a guy who makes good money and for lack of a better word a simp and wifeys a woman known to have a high body count. It happens. NOT saying you are a simp if you do wifey baddies with a high body count but those guys are often the type that do.
These days its not as bad as in our parents days. Women with a body count is kinda being the norm to Gen Zers. So, I would say its generational to some extent as well as socio-economic. Gen Z guys with money want baddie who has a low body count.
Women are fairly smart these days. They know how to hide their history. They purge ratchet pix. Limit the number of guys on their social media. But anyway, generally, men who have means are not wifeying women with a body count because the woman they intend to marry they look at her with a picture in their mind of she being the mother of their children and the woman on their arm in society and men don't view the women with multiple girls trips to NBA all star weekend, the BET awards, Jamaica or Dubai as the mother of their children. Trying to tell men what they should want as wifey, 1. isn't any more fair than you wanting men to tell you, you should settle for ex-con Pookie with 3 baby mamas and is the stock clerk at the supermarket.
You want who you want and you respect the choice.