I know some girls that share every single detail. I feel like anything too personal should be kept between the person I'm dating and me. If I need advice on something, I'll share a little more, or if it's a funny story I'll share if I feel like it's ok.

Please use your voice in an effort to get justice for our young brother who was senselessly and publicly murdered for allegedly speaking to a white woman. #JusticeForBarryWashingtonJr
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I am fairly traditional. I believe the man should be the financial supplier and the woman should be the homemaker. This is not to say this is how it can work out for everyone. In many cases, both people in the relationship need to work. Some women want careers as well and there is nothing wrong with that. For me personally though, I want to commit to a man who can provide so I can be the one who tends the home. To me, this is ideal for raising children and having a strong foundation. If you don't want children, both people pursuing careers is likely the better option. I like to be lead and submissive but not to the point of being used, abused, or stepped on. It is hard to find this balance in today's world but I know some couples who make it work and they are some of the happiest couples I know. I believe in courtship, marriage, and lasting bonds.

Do you hold any traditional values when it comes to relationships or are you more for modern changes?

I have a small 20-gallon tank. Been keeping it going for almost 3 years now. I have some of that moss growing on a piece of wood in there, looks like a small tree. I have a few other live plants as well. I did have gravel and half soil. I am considering upgrading and getting a larger one but I am worried a larger one would require a lot more upkeep and care. I just have some guppies and shrimp in there now. Had to separate the males and females (the females are in a smaller 5 gallon) cause those horny little devils wouldn't stop breeding!

Just looking for general tips or advice for managing a larger tank. I think I want to go up to a 40 or 50 gallon one.

It’s a quick video y’all but check out the food they are serving. It looks like straight up slop. What would y’all do if y’all kids went there? Mine would have a bag lunch everyday that’s for sure.

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If you walked in and saw your significant other doing this?



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Whenever I'm stressed, I try to take some deep breaths and I might make a list of whatever is bothering me. I also find that listening to music or getting outside for a bit (If I can) helps. Do you have any tips for dealing with stress?

Someone I know is currently in a very odd relationship. He's dating this woman that hasn't had sex with him in a while, and isn't into cuddling or being close together. The odd thing about it all, is that these two have been dating for a while now, maybe a year or two.

With all that being said, do you think you could date someone without having sex and having any intimacy? I couldn't do it. I feel like that's just a relationship that should have ended a lot sooner. But, I know some people who just date someone to live with them, so maybe that's what is going on there.

Could you see yourself sticking with a relationship that didn't have any love?

I know this really depends on the person and every relationship is different. I don't have any set "rules" but in general, I think saying "I love you" right away, moving in, or getting married under a year together is too fast. But I guess, I would be open to anything if it felt right lol

What yall think about the govt. Possibly going broke??

That was almost 1 in every 2 families having their own business. I have to wonder what happened here. Now it is something like less than 8%. I also was reading the statistics for marriage and co-op parenting. At the same time, 85% of black households were married or co-opting parents. Thomas Sowell has a strong stance on this in blaming the welfare state for ruining the black businesses, the black household/family, and the black community. He says in one generation of being on a welfare state, all of this was destroyed. I think the police state plays a role but I am not sure what he thinks about that.

What are your thoughts on this?

I saw this floating around… so who pays?

I was asked this question today so now I want to know your response.

I climbed the Dunn’s waterfall in Jamaica! I slipped on the rocks about 19 times but I made it to the top! It was fun, I would do it again.

If not, what's your philosophy and why?


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@Caprice and I were debating on this in regards to Megan the Stallion but it is a larger issue. How many of you think you know what men need and want instead of actually listening to the man in your life and acting based on what he says? Listen to woman for 2 minutes:

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She is kicking straight up knowledge. I’ve been in situations where I wanted to provide the person I was dating more but she wouldn’t listen to what I needed. They would argue with me about what I needed and then would be upset when I bounced because the next woman would provide me what I needed without issue.

In the Meg the Stallion scenario, the statement is “Protect Black Women” but you can’t tell us to protect when you won’t listen to use when we tell you what’s reasonable behavior. We ask that you be a lady and we’ll protect you…but some women want to be a stank hoe, tramp, hood chick and then still want to demand our protection.

You have to listen to what men say they need, not what you think they should need.